Why is it so difficult for a woman to say, "No."? We are the nurturers, working hard to make people happy, and we don't want to disappoint anyone. How do we find our voice after years of pleasing others? How do we know what we want?
After being married over 20 years and a mom for 15 of those, when someone asked me what I wanted to do, I would always defer to others. I felt like it was my job to meet everyone else's needs. I could go along with the group; I just wanted everyone else to be happy. I was the peacekeeper, just like my grandmother had been.
I noticed my husband would feel frustrated when I would defer. He sincerely wanted to know what I would like to do. He wanted to make my dreams come true, whatever they were. But first, I had to figure out what those dreams were. After years of being a mom and taking care of everyone else, it was hard to find my voice.
Now, my voice is strong. I trust my instincts, and hear my body's enthusiastic yes. I know when something feels right or wrong and I'm not afraid to say No. I am confident in myself and know that I want to be loved and accepted for exactly who I am, and if someone doesn't feel that way, they don't need to be a part of my life. I am so lucky to have a loving husband who loves and accepts all of me.
Let me help you find your voice. Learn what it feels like in your body when you are a hell yes, or a hell no. Let me help you trust your instincts and learn to speak up for yourself. Above all, I want to help you find more joy and pleasure in your life. I look forward to working with you!
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