Why Cuddle with a Sex Geek?

Someone asked me recently how I went from cuddling to Sex Geek, and the answer is actually the opposite, I started out as a Sex Geek and then started Cuddling. I attended Sex Geek Summer Camp (a business retreat for Sex Educators with Reid Mihalko) and there was introduced to my first Cuddle Party. A Cuddle Party is a safe place for consensual platonic touch with others.

After 6 years in the Lifestyle, I was so impressed by the way consent was handled, it inspired me to nerd out about consent and then put those skills into practice in my own personal adventures. The Cuddle Party left me buzzing with oxytocin-induced joy and relaxation. But more than that, the way consent was practiced before cuddles began made me feel safe in a way I had not yet experienced in the Lifestyle. The importance of feeling safe to say No, and know it would be immediately respected without any negative pushback, could not be understated. The Cuddle Party also required me to ask for what I wanted, and how I wanted to cuddle. It was wonderful practice in a much lower stakes environment to learn how to use my voice and feel into my body for what felt good in the moment. It also gave me the opportunity to hear others set boundaries and honor them.

To me, Cuddling is more than just platonic touch. It is about creating a safe space for someone to feel completely accepted as they are. To ask for what they want. To learn to feel into their body for what is a Hell Yes and what is a No. Cuddling is a place that can be completely silent or filled with confessions. It is a place where your nervous system can slow down and co-regulate with a trusted companion. Cuddling is a place to finally relax from the stress of everyday life, or grief, or breakup. I believe Cuddling is also a place where personal growth happens. Where you learn to take care of yourself. Where I am responsible for holding my own boundaries so you can feel safe to ask for what you need, and know that I will take care of myself in the moment so you can focus on your own needs.

So, why Cuddle with a Sex Geek? It might be like learning to fly a Cessna from a Navy Fighter Pilot. Someone with so much experience in so many situations that Cuddling and consent are like breathing. That said, you still haven't met me yet, seen my smile or felt my joy in person. Why not schedule a Free 30 min zoom call to meet me and decide if I am a good fit for you?